Book on students’ ‘ideal parents’

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THE Counseling and Career Guidance Section of the Department of Schools is looking at publishing a book based on a study they have conducted among students in the sultanate on ‘ideal parents’ (Ibu-bapa Idaman).

Speaking on the sidelines of the Family Day’s ‘Affectionate Family Gathering’ yesterday, Hj Ali Yusri Abdul Ghafor, head of the counselling section of the ministry, said the department is collaborating with the Language and Literature Bureau (DBP) in publishing the book which will outline and explain the characteristics of ideal parents in the sultanate as perceived by respondents of the survey.

“We are still in the process of discussion so InsyaAllah the book will be published (soon) and hopefully the answers given in the book will help to facilitate parents in their parenting skills and ways of communicating with their children,” said the counsellor.

According to the education officer, the ongoing study has been conducted since three years ago. It was in response to parents who constantly asked him for advice and ways of how to become great parents.

“I couldn’t really answer the question because I am a parent as well, I cannot answer what the children want now,” he said.

He went on to say that he took the initiative to conduct a study by distributing questionnaires focusing on the parent-child relationship to primary and secondary students who attended his motivational talks.

“As of now, we have more than 1,500 respondents for the survey,” he said, adding that the results of the survey will also be complemented with information from the section’s sharing counselling sessions.

Held at the International Convention Centre, Berakas, the event also featured a motivational forum on strengthening family institution by Hj Ali Yusri and Ustaz Dr Hj Noralizam Hj Aliakhbar, dean of Student Affairs at Seri Begawan Religious Teachers University College (KUPU SB) as the two panel speakers.

In the forum, Hj Ali Yusri shared a few of the study’s findings with the audience in which ‘ideal parents’ in the perception of students are those who are loving, attentive and can be a confidant to their children, understanding, funny and approachable.

“Eighty-five per cent of the students want their parents to be loving and affectionate,” he said, adding that it is vital for parents to ‘show their love’ through words and actions.

“Sometimes parents take their children for granted, they forget that these kids especially in their teens, they seek attention in which even a little word like calling them ‘sayang’ can make a big difference,” he said.

Meanwhile, Ustaz Dr Hj Noralizam talked about the roles and responsibilities of parents and children themselves in nurturing a loving and harmonious family.

He highlighted that parents, especially fathers, not only carry the responsibilities to support and care for the family, but also setting a good example for the children to follow in envisioning a strong, loving family.

Over a thousand participants attended the event comprising government personnel, non-governmental organisations and members of the public from Brunei-Muara and Temburong district.

Present as the guest of honour was Yang Berhormat Pehin Orang Kaya Indera Pahlawan Dato Seri Setia Hj Suyoi Hj Osman, accompanied by his spouse.

Also in attendance were Minister of Education Yang Berhormat Pehin Datu Lailaraja Major General (Rtd) Dato Paduka Seri Hj Awg Halbi Hj Mohd Yusof and his wife. The event also at the Insani Center at Seria attended by Education Deputy Minister Pg Dato Paduka Hj Bahrom Pg Hj Bahar.

The Brunei Times