Weddings must conform to Islamic etiquette
BANDAR SERI BEGAWAN
WEDDINGS among Muslim couples must be done in accordance to Islamic teachings, the Friday sermon reminded Muslims yesterday.
The sermon, read by imams in mosques and religious halls nationwide, said Allah SWT made every creature in pairs and it is the greatest blessing of Allah SWT to his creatures.
Marriage is the sunnah (tradition) of Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) and in it lies a lot of wisdom, which was to maintain self-respect between one another, and to live a happy, loving life together.
Marriage is encouraged in Islam. Therefore, it is appropriate that the marriage is solemnised in the house of Allah SWT (mosque), to gain His blessing and protection.
The sermon added that certain etiquette must be observed during the ceremony, which included covering aurat (limitations of body parts that should not be exposed according to Islam), not wearing clothes that are too tight and sheer, as well as not to engage in conversations or actions that would result in discomfort to others.
The sermon also cautioned brides or any female guests who are in their haid (menstruation period) and nifas (confinement period after giving birth), to avoid going to the mosques as it is haram (forbidden) to do so.
Those present at the ceremony were also advised to perform the sunat tahyatul masjid prayers upon entering the mosque, and offering doa (supplications) upon entering and exiting the mosque, the sermon said.
The sermon said weddings must be done according to Syariah and Islamic teachings.
The sermon cited examples, such as wedding expenses must not be a burden.
The best wedding, the sermon said was one that does not impose high expenses, leading to extravagance and wastage as it contradicts with the teachings of Islam.
It was also better if the wedding was conducted without having to take on debts.
The sermon acknowledged that there were groups of people who were forced to take on loans to pay for their wedding, either from the banks or their family members.
“But do not owe to the point that it would be difficult to repay the debt/loan as it would be a burden in their future,” the sermon said.
“It is therefore wise for weddings to be done according to one’s means, there is no need to burden one selves with the need to have a wedding filled with all the customs that they inherited,” added the sermon.
The sermon also said that holding a feast for one’s wedding was sunat (commendable).
For those who can afford it, they can prepare the feast with at least a lamb. For those who cannot afford it, it was enough for them to do the best that they can, such as serving drinks.
The sermon added that it was also an obligation for one to attend a wedding invitation, provided that there were no specific conditions.
They must also ensure that these events must not be entertainment-driven, which is against Islam such as drinking alcohol and dancing.
The Brunei Times